As I mentioned, I’m not a great conversationalist. If I’m bored or uninterested, I stop talking and day dream about more entertaining things such as food, specifically Nutella. Usually guys make an effort to fight this silence. Man vs Silence: The War continues.
# 23 did not do this. We went out for coffee after “meeting” at a party. I really don’t remember meeting him even though I was sober. But alas, he sent me a facebook message claiming he enjoyed our chat and would like to continue it over coffee. I haven’t been on too many dates lately, so agreed. We met at a cafe walking distance from my apartment.
After we breezed through the cursory questions, there it was:
Silence. Silence. and more silence.
I finally break it with, “Nice Weather.”
He agrees. silence.
I begin to think that maybe he isn’t that into me. But through the dead air, he maintains eye contact with me with laser-like intensity. Maybe he is so focused on staring, he has no energy left to communicate?
I wonder how long we can go without saying anything: 4 minutes. An entire song on my ipod or commercial break on a TV show. Then we say goodbye. He texts me saying he had a great time. My response is silence.
*It is a pet peeve of mine when guys ask me out for dates that involve conversation and don’t talk. There is a simple way around it: go to a movie, go to a loud concert…so it’s truly inexcusable.
Guys, if you aren’t talkative, DO NOT take a girl on a coffee date. There isn’t even food to fill the silence.